Pro Submission Sessions with Khaos[Overview] [Location] [Experience] [Activities] [Implements and Equipment] [Protocol] [Limits] [Virtual Sessions] [Scheduling] [Honorarium] [Photography]
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In person pro-sub sessions are temporarily on hold at the moment. I am in the process of moving, and will resume once I am settled in.
A limited number of IM, private chat/video chat, and telephone session appointments are still available during this time, and I am accepting inquiries regarding future sessions, but not currently scheduling.
It is very important that you read this entire page before attempting to schedule a session. Failure to follow protocol or instructions will result your request being delayed, rejected, or additional steps or honorarium needed for approval.
Do you have what it takes to dominate pure Khaos?
I will not come to your home, personal dungeon, or hotel room, or any other location which I have not thoroughly vetted and approved.
Well established clients, with whom I have developed a strong bond of mutual trust, may be able to direct exceptions to this at my discretion, provided your space meets my needs in terms of accessibility and personal safety (yours and mine).
My experience is from both sides of the "leash", as it were. My leather didn't come from the first cow or anything, but I was mentored in back in the days when that meant that you started out with someone(s) teaching you about BDSM etiquette and techniques, introducing you around to others, and basically making sure you knew what you were doing before being set loose on your own.
I started out, as was the custom back then, as a bottom, sponsored in by established members of the community. The idea was that you had to learn how to submit before you could learn to dominate, and that you should know what things feel like before you do them to another person. I still believe this is a good idea, and feel that the current age of, "Instant Dom/me: Just add leather and whips!" does a disservice to our community as a whole.
As was also customary back then, I was required to put in my time volunteering at local dungeons and events as I "learned the ropes" from those more experienced than I.
Over time, I learned proper scene etiquette, safety, negotiation skills, as well as the care, handling, and effective use of the various tools, implements, and toys of what it is that we do.
I was a Gorean slave; Fully owned, subject to all free (within the confines of my master's wishes, of course), and rightless, for over seven years. Before and during that time, I was given much rigorous training in casual and formalised service of food and drink, domestic and personal services, common slave positions, walking, standing, crawling, and speaking as a slave, striving for absolute obedience, perfect service, deference, and remembering to always mind my station, and speak "from my knees", in thought, even when not in fact.
I also have a great deal of experience with many forms of play, including a substantial amount of "edge play". I have a fairly high threshold for many forms of pain, so can be taken relatively far in terms of pain or other extreme sensation.
I've been a "demo/stunt bottom" many times, for all levels of practitioners, from folks attending a "tasting party" for the very first time and wanting to try their hand, to more experienced people learning a new skill, to seasoned players looking to take their sessions to more extreme levels. That means that if you are new to topping or dominating, or looking to expand your skillset, and are looking for some hands on experience, with some friendly "topping from the bottom", I have the experience to provide that service.
Additionally, I have owned multiple slaves over the years, and have dominated and/or topped countless subs, slaves, bottoms, switches, thrill seekers, masochists, people just trying out something new, and even dom/mes, tops, masters, and mistresses as it pleased them, so I have a well rounded understanding of what it is like to be on the other side, and bring that knowledge and experience into every session.
I am still an active member of the community and a regular volunteer at Seattle's Sex Positive Community Center, where I have been a volunteer since the beginning, and have held key leadership positions.
I can, and will gladly provide references on request. Better still, I am well known in the community - All you have to do is ask around, and you are certain to find people who will share their experiences with and knowledge of me. I feel this is a better approach. That way you can be certain that you are getting a balanced view, rather than the possibility of my only sending you to those who I know will speak well of me. I am sure there are some who don't like me, though, I am equally certain that the majority of people you ask, even those who dislike me, will tell you that I am safe (if not necessarily completely "sane" - where's the fun in that!?), trustworthy, and will always put the safety and well being of all concerned before anything else.
While I will not touch you or allow myself to be touched a sexual fashion, you are welcome to touch yourself and/or use your own sex toys on yourself, within the bounds mentioned in the limits section.
Unless otherwise noted, I have the implements required for everything listed.
Bondage (police style cuffs and manacles, leather/rubber wrist & ankle cuffs, chains, locks, medieval style restraints), caning (sensual/tattoo caning), cigar play and service, D/s, flogging (especially heavy, thuddy flogging!), Gorean commands and protocol, hair pulling, high protocol service, knifeplay, mindfuck, needles (play piercing/permanent piercing), obedience, personal service, rope - decorative and utilitarian, slave training (positions, protocol, paces, etc), spanking, subservience, third person speech, thuddy impact play.
Electricity (TENS/Violet wands/electric flyswatter, shock collars), predicament bondage, caning (traditional), clamps, clothes pins, paddles, stingy impact play, interrogations and torture, corporal punishment.
Implements and Equipment
Toys, restraints, etc.I have managed to amass a great quantity of "tools" over the years, many of them custom made to order or hand made myself.
Among them are a wide assortment of floggers, from the deliciously "thuddy" to impossibly "stingy" and made from everything from leather, to horsehair, rope, rubber, and satin, crops, tawses, singletail whips, paddles of all shapes, sizes, and materials, whompers, Nerf bats, rubber hoses, slappers, canes, fur, silk, clamps, clips, clothespins, textured gloves, blindfolds, daggers, wartenberg wheels, needle hammers, needles galore - both piercing and hypos, scalpels, sutures, TENS, shock collars, zappers, a violet wand with LOTS of attachments, hundreds of feet of rope in varying colours and sizes, chains, shackles, manacles, cuffs, masks, hoods, blindfolds, gags, collars, leashes, branding and cell popping equipment, fire wands, fire cups, sensation toys, and all manner of other novelties and pervertibles.
If there are particular items you wish to be incorporated into a session, let me know. If, by some off chance, I don't have it, you have the option of bringing your own to be used, bringing it as a honorarium gift, or otherwise assisting me in acquiring said item(s).
BDSM FurnitureI currently have a bondage/massage table, a lovely table cage, portable kennel cage, and an amazing, convertible, Tetruss "portable dungeon", which can be configured as a cross, rack, spanking sling "bench", swing, full suspension frame, medieval style set of neck, wrist, and ankle stocks (pillory), and more. Also planned for when I finish settling into my new home is a St Andrews cross specially designed to attach to my Tetruss, a sawhorse style spanking bench with arm and leg rails, and several other delightful additions to my new play space.
Rules, Safety, & Protocol
You MUST be fully vaccinated, with your second shot at least two weeks prior to your session. Being boosted as well is preferred and smart. You will be required to present your vaccination card, and test negative for COVID at the time of your arrival. I have tests available, however, it is a wise idea to self test prior to your session, as a positive test at session time will result in cancellation of your session and forfeiture of any deposits paid. There are no exceptions to this policy.
NEVER show up at my residence uninvited for any reason. This includes loitering on the property before or after your session(s). Violating this boundary will result in, at BEST, a forever ban on future sessions with me, and your name, description, and nature of the violation being circulated througout the lifestyle communities far and wide. At worst, you could find yourself facing serious legal troubles. Just do not.
Now, with that bit of unpleasant necessity out of the way...
Please arrive to your scheduled session on time. If you arrive early to the area (which is a good idea), you should wait off the property (there is a public park with a parking lot less than half a block away) until the exact time at which you have been asked to make contact. If you are running late or will be unable to keep your appointment, you must contact me as soon as you become aware of the fact. You will be provided with additional contact information and specific instructions for cancelling, rescheduling, or informing me of delays when your session is scheduled.
You will please arrive clean, well groomed, appropriately attired (street legal and reasonable), and free from any sort of excessive scents, especially chemical fragrances, as I am allergic. This means shower/bathe, wash your hair, brush your teeth, and tend to any odour prone areas before you make the trip. If you will be coming directly from work or a long drive/bus ride, you may make arrangements with me (in advance!) to take care of these things immediately upon arrival, as part of the session, whether you would like me to serve you as a valet or lady's maid by preparing your bath, assisting with bathing/shampooing, towelling, dressing your body or hair, etc, or simply have your towels warmed and ready for you, I am at your service.
While you will be respected as the dominant during your session, you will be expected and required to remember general courtesy and to respect my limits and house rules, as well as my space. This means refraining from entering any areas other than the playroom and restroom, as needed, unless you are specifically invited, handling my belongings, using linens or other items not specifically provided for your use, or adjusting lights, heating, cooling, music, etc. If you need anything or would like something adjusted, please let me know and I will see to it.
It is appropriate for any honorarium not paid in advance to be tendered at the beginning of each session.
There will be a short negotiation, emotional/mental/physical "check-in", and clarification at the beginning of each session, regardless of the extent of prior negotiations. It is important for me to know your frame of mind at the time, and to be aware of any issues which may crop up.
You should arrive well hydrated, at least reasonably well rested, and having eaten within a reasonable time frame before your scheduled session, unless we will be dining as part of your time with me. If you have not had a session with me before, it is preferred that you have a safe call set up. (More about safe calls here and here) I also prefer to have an emergency contact for you. If you are uncomfortable providing me directly with that information, you should, at the least, have emergency contact information on your person, whether on your phone, in a pocket, etc., so I can access it just in case.
If you have any allergies, health conditions (whether physical, mental, or emotional), injuries etc, which might trouble you during our session, they should be disclosed to me prior, as well as any known "triggers" and information regarding appropriate measures to be taken in the event of an episode. If you are diabetic, asthmatic, or dependent on any medications, please ensure that you have properly medicated, and that you have any life saving medications, quick glucose supply, inhalers, epi pens/kits, etc with you on site (not in your car!) and make certain that I know where they are and how to use them if needed. I am a retired first responder and do have first aid and trauma kits on site, but better to be safe than sorry.
All of these health and disclosure requirements are in place so that I can further ensure your safety, and make sure that, in the unlikely event of an emergency, I am able to get the right kind of help for you as quickly as possible. It is an important part of being of service.
Safe words/signals are used as a tool to alert you (or me - they are not just for subs!) that something is about to or has gone wrong. They will not used as an attempt to control the session. I do not "top from the bottom" unless that has been specifically negotiated for your pleasure or education.
Minors, animals, drunk/high people, dead people, or anyone else legally unable to give informed consent.
Non-consensually involving others.
This includes breaching the confidentiality of others or bringing anyone with you to a session without full disclosure to them and to me, beforehand.
Altering/damaging my hair.*
This includes any cutting, bleaching, colouring, perming, pulling out, or otherwise altering or damaging my hair. Hair pulling or hairstyling in a non damaging way is negotiable and probably fine as long as it's something a single shampoo will completely reverse.
ie: broken bones, sprains, head trauma, cuts requiring stitches, or anything else that should be seen to in hospital.
Exchange of bodily fluids*.
This includes kissing on the mouth or any biting that breaks skin at all.
Scat, piss, vomit, or any other bodily waste play*.
(including "teacher/mommy/daddy/aunt/incest/etc" type dynamics)
Hitting my face.
Anything that will harm/alter existing or planned body mods.
Permanent/long term marks without prior consent.
ANY body modifications, including tattoos, piercings, decorative cuttings, brandings etc require express prior negotiation and consent.
Belts used on me.
This includes actually using them on me or even threatening to in any form, even subtly or in jest.
Switches (the kind cut from a tree/bush/etc - It's ok if you are a switch!)
Whether used on me, physically or as a threat.
I will not consume alcohol or drugs not prescribed to me and/or taken as prescribed/intended for any reason. This is completely non negotiable.
Sex and sexual touching*.
No, there is no chance, whatsoever, of your being the special exception to this.
You are scheduling a session for professional submission, not hiring a sex worker. If you wish to hire a sex worker, there are many reputable ones to be found with some careful searching in your area.
As such, there will be no touching of my genitals or causing me to touch yours in any way whatsoever. f you attempt to violate this in any way, it will immediately end the session, as well as any hope of future sessions with me.
If you wish to pleasure yourself sexually during a session, provided it does not involve any physical contact with me and your bodily fluids are completely contained with a condom, towel, chux pad, your hand, etc, provisions and supplies can be provided, but this must be cleared prior to the session.
Sessions will be monitored by a third part directly on site or nearby to endure my limits are respected and that I not harmed. Any attempts to remove, bypass, or otherwise interfere with said monitoring will end your session immediately with no refund, and law enforcement may be called as necessary.
Again, it's not just about not wanting to withstand the pain.. At a certain point, the nerve endings start clanging, legs stop working, and I will fall, which is unacceptable, as it is likely to cause additional, severe (potentially life threatening) injury.
I am unable to stand unassisted for more than five or so minutes, maximum - less on bad pain days.*
If supported by a rack or something and able to lean, shift position slightly, use my arms to hang on to something and take some of my weight, secured in such a way that my back is not supporting me, etc, I am often able to stay upright for longer.
I can only maintain a kneel without adjusting position into other suitable "at rest" positions for very short times, and sometimes am unable to kneel at all. *
Ten minutes is really pushing it. Three to five minutes is more realistic for maintaining a strict kneeling position.
Using a kneeling bench or stool greatly increases my ability to maintain position for longer periods of time.
I cannot take significant impact on/over my right sacral joint. *
I may be able to take more or less than you consider "significant" - The best thing to do is experiment and solicit my feedback.
My right arm cannot be bound or held in a way which puts significant stress on the right shoulder for any more than a couple minutes. *
My right knee and right hip cannot be stressed for more than a few minutes at a time. *
(hyperextended, overly stretched, etc)
* Some limits may not be applicable to Virtual Sessions, subject to negotiation.
Due to the nature of virtual sessions, certain limits (those marked with an *asterisk) may not apply, and many activities or fantasies which would not otherwise be feasible can be included and explored.
Virtual sessions tend to require less advance notice, and can sometimes even be scheduled the same day.
Weekends and bank holidays tend to fill up especially quickly and are usually booked fairly far out. If you are not available during the week, it is recommended that you schedule as far in advance as you are able, in order to secure the day of your choice.
Before scheduling an initial session, you must complete a client application form, which is to be filled out completely and accurately. You should expect to be contacted via email within 24 - 48 hours with any additional questions or clarifications I may have for you. If I feel that you are able to command me safely, and I am able to meet your requirements, I will provide you with further information and available dates/times.
Virtual sessions may be scheduled as little as an hour or two in advance, depending on my availability. Of course, the more lead time you provide, the higher the likelihood of my ability to serve your pleasure.
All session time after the initial 90 minutes is prorated in 15 minute increments.
Sessions may be less than 90 minutes, if your time is limited, however, this will not affect the minimum honorarium for new clients.
Established clients in good standing may be able to schedule shorter sessions without the normal, minimum honorarium.
A non-refundable* deposit of $250.00 toward the honorarium must be paid no more than 24 hours after scheduling a session, until a client is well established and remains in good standing. If the deposit is not received within that time period, the session will be cancelled and any future session will require a deposit before scheduling. If the session is cancelled by the client at least 48 hours before the scheduled session, the deposit may be applied to a future session.
Cancelling a session less than 48 hours in advance will result in forfeiture of your full deposit, except in cases of true emergency, in which case, it can be used toward a future session, less any costs incurred in preparing for your session.
* Deposits WILL be refunded, or may be used toward a future session if client prefers, in the event that *I* cancel the session for personal reasons, unrelated to any breach of agreements or limits by the client.
I accept payment via PayPal, Amazon gift cards, pre-loaded Visa, Mastercard, or American Express cards, or cash. PayPal is the preferred payment method, and has the added benefit of including a dispute resolution process for your peace of mind, in case you are concerned that I may take your money and no-show. Charges and invoices processed through PayPal will appear as, "Individual Guidance Coaching Session". All payments, regardless of form, must clear at least 24 hours before the scheduled session.
It is common, appropriate, and appreciated for a client to bring some token of appreciation to reward a professional submissive for their service and submission and to help her remember her special time with you.
The honorarium for virtual sessions is $100.00 per hour for private video chat, $75.00 per hour for voice only, and $50.00 per hour for private text chat or IM. All virtual sessions are calculated in 15 minute increments. Payment for the first 15 minutes must clear in advance of the session.
Photos containing any images of persons besides yourself require written permission from all parties before publishing or making available to the public in any form. This includes posting on profiles, blogs, tumblr, etc.
All photos may be used on my profiles or websites. Faces, distinctive marks or hairstyles, and any other identifying features will be blocked, for your privacy, unless you give specific, written consent for the use of your likeness by filling out a model consent form, which will be provided to you if applicable.