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Updated: 2022.09.11

The socials have been changed from three hours to two hours, going forward.
They may go over some, if there are enough folks still fully engaged at the official end time, but it will be a case by case thing. It turns out three hours is just more than most seem to want or need, so I changed it.

You can use the comment section on the RSVP form to let me know if you would like to be included in the events mailing list (No spam, JUST notifications of events), and/or subscribe to my blog to be notified of the latest events.

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What it is

This is a virtual cigar social for lovers of the leaf and their admirers to gather and enjoy fine cigars and pairings, share tips, tricks, recs, and general conversation.

Whether you enjoy smoking cigars, watching others smoke them, serving as a human ashtray or other cigar service, want to learn about cigars as a pastime, fetish, form of service, or just what pairs well or where to find great deals on sticks and accessories, this is a great opportunity to meet some new friends and have a good time.

A notification will be posted in the FetLife group each month, with a link to the FetLife event page once it is up.

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When & Where

When: Second Saturday of each Month

Time: 1500-1800 (3-5pm) Pacific Time

Location: Zoom. RSVP for invite link.

Topic: Varies

Topics for each social will be announced on my blog and on the FetLife group, with a link to the FetLife event page once it is up. In addition to topics, I plan to introduce some speakers, demos, and other fun stuff for future dates, so stay tuned! And, if you have ideas for topics, or are willing to speak about or demo specific cigar or cigar fetish/service/play related areas, please do let me know.

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What to expect

This is mainly a social, but is specifically a Smokey Kisses event, so there is likely to be some fetish, BDSM, Leather, and/or sensual content.

It is not a high protocol event, though HP participation is welcome and encouraged for those who wish. That said, the atmosphere will be mostly casual and comfortable, and no rules regarding honorifics or HP conduct will be enforced by the Host(s).

Note that sensual =/= sexual. This isn't a cam show, virtual orgy, play session, or similar. It's a social event for like minded folks.

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Rules

This is an adult only event.

ALL attendees AND anyone who can see your screen, hear audio, or be seen or heard from your end must be 18 years of age or older!

No exceptions. If a minor enters your space unexpectedly, you must immediately either leave or mute yourself, turn off your video, and ensure the minor cannot see or hear the Zoom meeting until they are out of range.

There is also to be no discussion, imagery, or other content which promotes, encourages, or fetishises smoking, being exposed to second hand smoke, or any adult activities by minors.

Anyone breaking this rule will be removed, banned from ALL future Smokey Kisses and afiliated events, and reported to Zoom Trust and Safety.

No Pregnant or Addiction Smoking Fetish.

There will be no requests for or discussion, imagery, or other content which promotes, encourages, or fetishises smoking or being exposed to secondhand smoke during pregnancy, or causing, aiding, or abetting addiction to any harmful substance.

No overtly sexual content or displays.

While it IS an adult event catering largely to the Leather/BDSM/Fetish communities, it is, once again, NOT a cam show, virtual orgy, play session, or similar. With that in mind, fetishwear and tasteful partial nudity (think decorative rope bondage, harnesses, corsets, open smoking jackets/robes, lingerie, undergarments, slave silks/kamisks, casual nudity, etc.) are allowed, but overt focus on genitalia or blatant sexual (as opposed to sensual) display is not. If we feel your attire or lack thereof is inappropriate, a host will private message you and ask you to adjust.

Note that other people's ideas of what is "attractive", such as body shape/type/size, age, gender identity or expression, disability, fetish expression (within the previously mentioned boundaries), style, etc have NOTHING to do with whether something is appropriate, so any complaints about fat/skinny/wrinkly/"ugly"/fetish or gender you don't like/person rocking their tighty whities or bunny slippers, or anything like that will be ignored, at best. At worst, it will earn you a ban under the "don't be a douche" clause.

No wanking on camera.

If you must rub one out, mute yourself, turn off your cam, and don't announce in public chat, or privately to anyone what you're doing without explicit invitation and consent.

Don't be a douche...

Be polite and respectful of other attendees.

That means respecting my and others' limits, boundaries, experience or lack thereof, etc. Debate is cool, but do it civilly. Basically, don't be a jerk.

No Bigotry.

Intolerance, hate speech, shaming, or any other douchebaggery based on anyone's actual or perceived race, ethnicity, culture, religion/spirituality, personal beliefs (as long as they don't include anything on this list) orientation, gender identity or expression, abilities, lived experience, body, kinks, sexuality, etc. will get you booted and banned. Depending on the situation, you might get ONE warning, if I feel it is a matter that can be solved by educating you.

Don't kink shame, personally attack, name call, (non consensually) insult, or otherwise be a jerk to anyone.

This is a safe place to discuss pretty much anything, as long as it is not encouraging or fetishising anything non consensual or illegal. Intellectual discussion of those topics are ok, as long as they don't get out of hand. The same is true of political or religious discussions, so long as everyone can be civil. Again, don't make me invoke the "don't be a douche" clause! You won't like it. I promise.

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RSVP Information

How and when to send an RSVP

When you RSVP to a private event, please bear in mind that you are essentially requesting entry to to someone's home (even if it is a virtual home). Simply sending a message demanding a stranger's address, virtual or otherwise, is quite rude, and simply unacceptable. (Yes; People have done this, repeatedly). That will guarantee an invitation to find something else to do.

It is customary, when asking to attend a private event hosted by someone you do not know, to politely introduce yourself and let them know why you would like to attend their event.

Ideally, you should RSVP at least two days prior to the event - preferably as SOON as you know you want to attend - and absolutely no later than six hours prior to the event to insure a spot for you. Last minute requests will be considered based on circumstances, but should not be a pattern.

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RSVP form

Please take time to ensure the entire form is filled out with the requested information.

You can also use this form to ask questions regarding the event.

(required fields are marked with *)
Name:
Your scene name or nickname is acceptable.
*
E-Mail Address: *
Are you, or will you be over the age of 18 on the event date? Yes   No   *
Have you fully read, and do you agree to abide by the event rules at all times while attending? Yes   No   *
Have you attended a Cigar Social before? Yes   No   *
Additional information/Comments/Questions:

Please include anything else you feel I should know or
any questions you have in this space.
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